"Don't Wanna Be A Player"

The hottest trend right now....older women dating younger men. The idea certainly seems hot. Men have been dating younger women for years so why shouldn't women try a young thing on. Personally at my age, dating a younger guy even by 3 years has yet to work to my advantage. They still have that mentality of a 16 year old boy. I'll save my cougar hunting for my late thirties and beyond.

Since I can remember, I've always been attracted to older men myself. Daddy issues? Maybe. Same maturity level? Usually. Better in bed? Always. I think the appeal is that they have already sewed their wild oats. It's kind of like my bad boy obsession but a little more tamed. A little. My crushes always were much older. TV stars, teachers, etc....Is it ideal? Not in the least. Usually the things I still have to look forward to in life, they have already been there and done that. So why continue? The one reason that everyone says when they like someone, ideal or not. "you can't help who you like". Amen sistah.

Don't get me wrong, I don't go hunting for men 20 years my senior who have already established their lives. Well, at least I don't think I do. I date men my age. Some have even caught my attention for more than one date. One was the hottest, most fun fling I've ever had. The first time around. Not so hot the second, but that's a whole other blog. The other....well I still think about our....ummmmm.....well you get the drift. Hell, I still get texts from him and I won't lie that it still gets my heart racing...among other things. The problem with these boys...that's all that it is. I spent the majority of my 20's playing the field and having a hell of a good time. I don't regret one single minute of it. Lately, I've been less and less interested in that life style. Could it be I'm maturing....heavens, I do believe so!

In an attempt to try my hardest to stay away from men twice my age I went on a date last week with someone 4 years younger. I think all the 30 somethings have vacationed for the summer....

He's cute...in a frat boy, probably hasn't grown chest hair yet, still lives at home with mom kind of way. This sounds less cute when said out loud. He was cute. Not handsome. Have I mentioned I love handsome older men? Oh sorry. The date....right. Well, we grab a drink. Me:Stella Artois. Him:PBR. I kid you not. In a very short amount of time, I now confirm my attraction to older men whether it's good for me or not. This is just NOT working. He's still talking about college,beer pong and flip cup. No thank you. I politely remove myself and head home. Terrible date? No. Just not for me. If this was a normal person, this blog would end here. I think we know my life is far from normal.....

Two days after our date I receive a text late at night from a number I don't recognize. "I would def hook up". This must be a wrong number. I ask who it is. It's not a wrong number. He asks if I'm "down". In a strange way I suppose I can take this as a compliment but I politely explain that right now, I'm not looking for that but I think that at his age he should concentrate on having some fun. Just not with me. I thought it was a nice way of letting him down. Didn't matter. He then proceeds to tell me that he's sure I'm frisky every now and then and that he can solve that problem. Every now and then? I said I'm 27 not 67! I'm more than every now and then! At this point I needed to get to bed so I just ignored his next few texts.

This went on for days. He even got a little dirty with me via texts. There was certainly a rush of excitement but still most of me was just annoyed. He was relentless! I admire the persistence but at 23 you MUST know a pretty young girl looking to answer your prayers. Right? I eventually ran out of ways to let him down. He wasn't taking no for an answer and I wasn't giving in. Don't get me wrong. I thought about it. But, I know how young guys are....If I'm going to have my friskiness taken care of, it's not going to be with a young inexperienced guy. Call me rude. Whatever. In my opinion I think most(not all) younger guys have one thing in mind. Getting themselves taken care of.

Finally, after many failed attempts at declining every advance, he finally got the message and left me alone. For those that know me and know me well.....I usually give in after two attempts. I do indeed believe that this young women is growing up...just a little. Either that or I have just have something(someone) else up my dress. Sleeve! I mean sleeve! ;)

"Same Old Song And Dance"

Why is it when you are really in the mood for something it's hard to find, doesn't exist, too expensive, or off limits? I have lived the past 7 years without a care in the world when it comes to men. You can come, you can go, either way it's doubtful you'll break my heart. I've probably already gotten bored or found something new anyways. Yet lately all I really wanted was one normal date that maybe even ends with a sweet goodnight kiss. Yes I just said sweet. Ok poor choice of word. Passionate? Hungry? Yes, perhaps those are better words. Leave me with a kiss that has my cheeks flushed, my breath short, and my words, escaped me....

Maybe it's the "Summer Love" mode I seem to see everywhere. Apparently this years fashion is a floral print summer dress, platform stilettos, Ray Bans, and a man to finish off the look. I can't remember the last time accessorizing with a man was remotely important to me. What is important though is keeping up with the latest fashion trends! I have summer dresses galore and a shoe collection Imelda Marcos would be proud of. The only thing missing....is that handsome accessory. Don't get me wrong, I can still walk proudly down the street in my stilettos and dress but it certainly would be more fun if someone else was enjoying that ensemble too.....

Lately, it's been slim pickens. I've had a man with a fan of $20 bills by his face try to email me, no offense but I'm not even going to look at what you had to say to me. A 21 year old looking for "a chick to hang out wit that's fly". Seriously, who actually says "fly" and at 21 what could you possibly even offer me. And don't wink at me dude b/c I'd bet my life you don't even know what you're doing in that department either so run along. Foreign men that can barely speak or type English that are looking for a wife. I'm not even going to go there....I even had a 32 year old man lecture me that Bret Michaels is in fact a "great guy"( in response to a snide comment about him in my profile). Well then maybe you, Bret, and his hair extensions should get a room. Was there a sale on smart attractive men recently that I missed? I'm pretty good at keeping up with sales. Especially ones that involve good looking guys.

I went on a date last weekend with a nice enough guy. Great job, lives in the back bay, attractive....wait for it.....BUT, the man is seriously attracted to attention. More than me. If you know me, that really says something. He craves it and thrives on it. He always manages to find a news camera at some sporting or city event and get face time. Good or bad, the guy loves attention and fully admits it. My attention preferably doesn't involve youtube or TV cameras. My luck, that would happen and I would get caught at exactly the WRONG moment doing exactly the WRONG thing. Not so shocking coming from me. He also is insanely obsessed with the Bruins. Now before some of you Bruins fans jump down my throat(not in a good way), I am in no way putting down loving a sporting event. Trust me. I love me some Sox hard core...but they don't rule or dictate my life. Maybe given the fact that it's playoff season, it's extremely amplified for him. Maybe. Or maybe he has a black and yellow fish named Lucic. For those not in the know, that's B's left wing. Thanks to a quick yet helpful lesson before my date, I am in the know. For those ladies still not in the know....he's pretty cute and after watching a quick video on him...he's pretty aggressive on the ice(you know what they say about men aggressive on the ice right?)....Sorry I digress. Have I mentioned that my date dresses up as a bear for all the home games? No? Luckily he left the bear suit home for the date....

All and all my date was pleasant and I really don't have anything bad to say. I don't have anything exciting to say but sometimes that can also be a good thing. Maybe a little less excitement in the life of this bad girl is a good thing? Or maybe that sentence alone bores me to tears. So I play with fire a little.....It's only b/c I can take the heat. I can handle what those creatures of the common place and slaves of ordinary can't. Maybe after the B's seal the deal this guy will show me a little more than his love of the game. Otherwise, I'm going to start checking Ebay for that missing accessory. Story of my life would lean towards me paying full price if not more.....