"Don't Wanna Be A Player"

The hottest trend right now....older women dating younger men. The idea certainly seems hot. Men have been dating younger women for years so why shouldn't women try a young thing on. Personally at my age, dating a younger guy even by 3 years has yet to work to my advantage. They still have that mentality of a 16 year old boy. I'll save my cougar hunting for my late thirties and beyond.

Since I can remember, I've always been attracted to older men myself. Daddy issues? Maybe. Same maturity level? Usually. Better in bed? Always. I think the appeal is that they have already sewed their wild oats. It's kind of like my bad boy obsession but a little more tamed. A little. My crushes always were much older. TV stars, teachers, etc....Is it ideal? Not in the least. Usually the things I still have to look forward to in life, they have already been there and done that. So why continue? The one reason that everyone says when they like someone, ideal or not. "you can't help who you like". Amen sistah.

Don't get me wrong, I don't go hunting for men 20 years my senior who have already established their lives. Well, at least I don't think I do. I date men my age. Some have even caught my attention for more than one date. One was the hottest, most fun fling I've ever had. The first time around. Not so hot the second, but that's a whole other blog. The other....well I still think about our....ummmmm.....well you get the drift. Hell, I still get texts from him and I won't lie that it still gets my heart racing...among other things. The problem with these boys...that's all that it is. I spent the majority of my 20's playing the field and having a hell of a good time. I don't regret one single minute of it. Lately, I've been less and less interested in that life style. Could it be I'm maturing....heavens, I do believe so!

In an attempt to try my hardest to stay away from men twice my age I went on a date last week with someone 4 years younger. I think all the 30 somethings have vacationed for the summer....

He's cute...in a frat boy, probably hasn't grown chest hair yet, still lives at home with mom kind of way. This sounds less cute when said out loud. He was cute. Not handsome. Have I mentioned I love handsome older men? Oh sorry. The date....right. Well, we grab a drink. Me:Stella Artois. Him:PBR. I kid you not. In a very short amount of time, I now confirm my attraction to older men whether it's good for me or not. This is just NOT working. He's still talking about college,beer pong and flip cup. No thank you. I politely remove myself and head home. Terrible date? No. Just not for me. If this was a normal person, this blog would end here. I think we know my life is far from normal.....

Two days after our date I receive a text late at night from a number I don't recognize. "I would def hook up". This must be a wrong number. I ask who it is. It's not a wrong number. He asks if I'm "down". In a strange way I suppose I can take this as a compliment but I politely explain that right now, I'm not looking for that but I think that at his age he should concentrate on having some fun. Just not with me. I thought it was a nice way of letting him down. Didn't matter. He then proceeds to tell me that he's sure I'm frisky every now and then and that he can solve that problem. Every now and then? I said I'm 27 not 67! I'm more than every now and then! At this point I needed to get to bed so I just ignored his next few texts.

This went on for days. He even got a little dirty with me via texts. There was certainly a rush of excitement but still most of me was just annoyed. He was relentless! I admire the persistence but at 23 you MUST know a pretty young girl looking to answer your prayers. Right? I eventually ran out of ways to let him down. He wasn't taking no for an answer and I wasn't giving in. Don't get me wrong. I thought about it. But, I know how young guys are....If I'm going to have my friskiness taken care of, it's not going to be with a young inexperienced guy. Call me rude. Whatever. In my opinion I think most(not all) younger guys have one thing in mind. Getting themselves taken care of.

Finally, after many failed attempts at declining every advance, he finally got the message and left me alone. For those that know me and know me well.....I usually give in after two attempts. I do indeed believe that this young women is growing up...just a little. Either that or I have just have something(someone) else up my dress. Sleeve! I mean sleeve! ;)